Sexuality and Disability

My Story

Living Together

My partner and I are both diagnosed autistics. We are a couple of two people who are supposedly incapable of having relationships.We don't do things the "normal" way. We met online, at a certain autism website. We had some difficulties in knowing how to touch each other at first, though we now do it all the time. Our idea of a great date often involves going to bookstores. We have silly repeated phrases, usually involving our cat, that we repeat to each other many times a day.And yes, there are difficulties. We are both disabled and trying to live semi-independently together. Sometimes this is very, very hard.

Stimulating Each Other

'Depending on what sexual positions we do, it can cause him pain later, or pain during that is difficult to ignore, no matter how much fun we're having at the time. A lot of the medications he's on have an effect on his ability to sustain his erection, although not on his ability to get aroused or sexually stimulated. If he's having a high pain day, we don't have sex. Also, he sleeps more than I do. This is the most tragic thing. We would be having more sex if he didn't need so much sleep. [We do] mutual masturbation. Lots of sexualized teasing and cuddling and the like. Sexual talk. Other games and stuff.We also plan things. (I know, if you plan your sex life in advance, it's not spontaneous. Woe.)

Questions

Question1 I'm never going to look like the women in advertisements and posters, and this makes me feel really bad about the way my body is.
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Question2 My daughter is in a wheelchair. I am worried that we'll never find a husband for her.
This is what psychologist Jyotti Savla has to say on this: 'Yes, it may be difficult to find a loving partner for your daughter, and you are worried about it. Read more on My daughter is in a wheelchair. I am worried that we'll never find a husband for her.

Question3 Is my child more prone to abuse than non-disabled children?
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