Sexuality and Disability

My Story

The Best Decision I Ever Made

'I met my ex when I was 18, he was quite a bit older than me but the age gap didn't really seem to matter. I had discovered that I had multiple sclerosis (MS) about one year before we met but I was still walking unaided when we started seeing each other. We became serious very quickly and after 6 months actually I moved in with him. After a while my MS began to worsen and I began to have to use a walking stick to help me move around. I was no longer working and my MS became so bad that often I had to use a wheelchair. It was around this time he began to be aggressive towards me - he'd shout at me for what seemed to be no real reason at all...

Mother In A Wheelchair

'I've been in a wheelchair since I had a car accident when I was 16. I'd always wanted to be a mother and a year after I got married, I had my first son. When the children were young I got by through designing and modifying things to suit my needs. When they were babies I had them on a sheepskin with two wooden handles so I could pick them up. When they started crawling they'd wear a little harness or I'd dress them in overalls. I had a change table and bassinette modified to suit my chair, and used a bath that supported the babies well. The hardest part when the children were young, was the isolation. We were living in a semi-rural area and I was very much confined to the house while my husband worked.

Questions

Question1 Doesn't sex have to involve another person?
Welcome to masturbation, which is all about solo sex (involving you, you and you). Sex with yourself involves you pleasuring your mind and body. Read more on Doesn't sex have to involve another person?

Question2 What if my partner starts thinking that I am a burden on him?
Asks counsellor Jyotti Savla from Mumbai: 'Are you anticipating this situation, or are you getting hints which have led to this fear? Read more on What if my partner starts thinking that I am a burden on him?

Question3 I work at an institution for mentally-ill women. When women start touching each other in sexual ways, the staff increases their medication. Is this ok?
No. In fact, forced medication (especially the use of tranquilizers) is included in the list of practices considered forms of violence. Read more on I work at an institution for mentally-ill women. When women start touching each other in sexual ways, the staff increases their medication. Is this ok?