Shower Him Away
'There's a low-level harassment that seems to go without saying, but sometimes things happen that stick. Men have often kicked, grabbed or forcefully pushed me (even at the top of stair cases) when I'm out in my wheelchair. It's scary. Sometimes it's just plain hurtful. Once or twice, I've been in a shop waiting to pay for something and the man behind me decides to wheel me out of the line. Just like that! The first time I went out in my wheelchair my mum and I were so shocked when an aggressive man leaned over me, shook my wheelchair and quickly thrust his groin in my face as he squeezed past. There was about three feet of space in front of us he could have easily used without pressing up against me or moving my chair at all. I was sixteen.
Pregnant By Choice
I'm a 32-year-old woman, disabled since birth, and until recently I have been firmly in the closet. I have been living in the nondisabled world all my life... I completed college, then graduate school. I am a full time professional. I have been married eight years to a non-disabled person...And yet, here are these braces. This limp. This ostomy appliance. These stares in the supermarket. All remind me that, while I live among the non-disabled, I remain on the margins. I remain Other. I was born with a congenital defect of the lower spine called sacral agenesis. This means that my sacrum is mostly missing -- where "normal" folks have vertebrae, I have a mass of soft tissue...