Sexuality and Disability

My Story

Pad Practice

'Long before [my daughter who has a developmental disability] started, I had her practice putting on a pad and taking it off. To get her used to them, she wore them while I was having a period. I kept repeating this every month. I had to teach her the process of putting on and taking off a pad in small steps. She had difficulty using her hands, so it took a long time and a lot of patience.At first, I guided her hands, placing my hands over hers, as she picked up the pad, took off the strip and placed the pad in her panties. After awhile, she could do each step just with telling her, "Now pick up the pad, tear off the str..."

Seeing The Signs

'We had a case here. The child had a learning disability, slight mental retardation, and some disorder which distorts the face, hands and fingers. She is thirteen years old but behaves very much like an eight or nine year old. Her case was brought to our notice by one of the schools training under us. She approached one teacher she is very close to and said "teacher I want to tell you a secret." When the teacher would ask, the girl would say "no no nothing." This went on for fifteen days. The teacher was very calm and patient. One day, she asked the teacher, "teacher have you ever had sex with your boy friend?" They were not on such friendly talking terms, so the teacher asked her,

Questions

Question1 Why do I bleed every month?
When girls are between 10 and 15 years old, they start bleeding from the vagina every month for around 4-7 days every month. Read more on Why do I bleed every month?

Question2 I am attracted to someone, but I am scared of being rejected.
Well, you're not alone! The fear of rejection is universal - irrespective of how old you are, what work you do, the way you look, and whether or not you are disabled. Read more on I am attracted to someone, but I am scared of being rejected.

Question3 My family never takes me out anywhere with them, and if someone comes home they lock me up in my room. I feel terrible. What do I do?
You are not alone. Many women with disabilities face this from their natal and affinal (in laws) families. Read more on My family never takes me out anywhere with them, and if someone comes home they lock me up in my room. I feel terrible. What do I do?