Sexuality and Disability

My Story

Dumped Big Time

'I found myself in this situation. I'll never forget sitting across from my then-husband as he announced, "It's time for you to move on with your life." I looked down at my seven-month pregnant belly, and considered my three little boys, ages eight and younger, who were sleeping at Grandma's house. My first son had recently been diagnosed with juvenile diabetes, and my second son had just been diagnosed with autism. My third boy was born with a cataract in his eye, which caused doctors to question whether all three had some sort of genetic syndrome. My unborn child would be here in just a few months, and now my husband was leaving.

Gliding Through Life

Though some disabled people strive for able-bodiedness through the search for a cure...many of us embrace our queer bodies and feel better in our skin by doing so. This is true for me; as I decided at the age of fifteen to begin to use a wheelchair despite my mother's decry that I "would never live a normal life" if I did not walk.I stopped talking because I went through a cycle of several fractures stemming from having brittle bones and a femur and double tibia rodding surgery that kept me bed-ridden for about six months. It exhausted my mental health and I decided walking was not worth the psychological cost...

Questions

Question1 I'm never going to look like the women in advertisements and posters, and this makes me feel really bad about the way my body is.
Join the club. The ads you see and hear are designed to sell products, and they've figured the best way to do this is by lowering women's self-esteem (link Self Esteem). Read more on I'm never going to look like the women in advertisements and posters, and this makes me feel really bad about the way my body is.

Question2 Isn't good sex just supposed to 'happen'? I feel like talking about it may kill the mood.
Many of us have grown up believing that sex is something that is best not talked about. External Website that opens in new window This can make sharing intimate details about desires, sexual thoughts and feelings difficult. Read more on Isn't good sex just supposed to 'happen'?

Question3 I am visually impaired. While helping me cross the road, the person sometimes brushes against me. I feel uncomfortable. What should I do?
In public transport like buses and trains, women often experience men rubbing against them or feeling them up. Read more on I am visually impaired. While helping me cross the road, the person sometimes brushes against me. I feel uncomfortable. What should I do?