Need For Counselling
'My husband would get angry when I refused to have sex and he would continue to yell at me and grab me until I just gave in to shut him up. He would exert control over me by preventing me from leaving rooms, throwing or breaking my crutches. Once he cut my clothes off me while I slept. We sought individual counselling and things are much better now as we both understand the origin of these issues.
Being In A Wheelchair
'I was very nervous and didn't have the usual teenage experience of growing up and being aware of myself as a sexual person. All the emphasis on "the perfect body" doesn't help, especially since there's no way I could ever aspire to what is seen as ideal. Being in a wheelchair limits my ability to move in what you would consider the standard sexual ways. It can be hard enough discussing sex with an established partner, never mind having to be upfront from the start and really spell out the realities - for example, telling someone it hurts when he does that, I have no feeling there or I physically cannot manage to do that.