Sexuality and Disability

My Story

How We Met

During my PhD, one evening I had gone to attend my childhood friend's birthday party. There was a man sitting there talking to other people. He suddenly began staring at me. And you know after some time he came and sat next to me, and started talking to me. I didn't know he was to be my future husband then. He was an electronics computer engineer. So when he sat next to me in the birthday party, he spoke to me, I spoke to him, we had a nice conversation, and I discovered that he was rather intelligent. He took my number during the party, and then when I went home, he started calling me every day. He kept calling and calling. I had told him that I wanted to go and defend my thesis. So he came to the railway station with my things.

Why!

For me in the initial years relationships didn't matter because it was all about survival. The need to be in a relationship started four years down the line, when I started getting all right and I started socialising. That's when I realised that ok there is something missing in my life. I suppose I stopped going to social functions and parties because that made me realise that men were not interested in me. I only went to functions where I felt comfortable and accepted...I had decided that I may not get a man. A lot of people felt that why don't I go for someone who is disabled as I am. And for some reason I couldn't digest that.

Questions

Question1 Why should I try and be healthy when everyone treats me like I'm sick?
Some people think having a disability means you are sick. This is not true. But you may need to take more care in your daily routines to stay healthy. Read more on Why should I try and be healthy when everyone treats me like I'm sick?

Question2 I don't like going out. What do I do?
To begin with, ask yourself this question, 'Why do you not like going out?' Try to pinpoint the issues that you face. Read more on I don't like going out. What do I do?

Question3 Will my disability make me an easy victim of sexual assault?
Many women experience sexual assault and rape. They face these at the hands of partners, families, people they interact with, Read more on Will my disability make me an easy victim of sexual assault?