Sexuality and Disability

My Story

How We Met

During my PhD, one evening I had gone to attend my childhood friend's birthday party. There was a man sitting there talking to other people. He suddenly began staring at me. And you know after some time he came and sat next to me, and started talking to me. I didn't know he was to be my future husband then. He was an electronics computer engineer. So when he sat next to me in the birthday party, he spoke to me, I spoke to him, we had a nice conversation, and I discovered that he was rather intelligent. He took my number during the party, and then when I went home, he started calling me every day. He kept calling and calling. I had told him that I wanted to go and defend my thesis. So he came to the railway station with my things.

Good Touch/ Bad Touch

'A nine-year-old child use to live with the grandmother. Both the parents were working, and the grandmother was pretty old. By old I mean that she wasn't active and had a problem with walking around much. So she was a caregiver who falls in the category of disabled. This child was an independent and happy child. There was a twenty year old boy, and he used to stay in the same locality, who knew the child but never had been to the place. They lived in the chawl kind of set up were everyone knew everyone. So one day he comes and visits the grandmother. He talks to her, tells her that he stays here. Gives food to the grandmother, makes a connection. Mostly these kinds of connections are made through food.

Questions

Question1 Why should I try and be healthy when everyone treats me like I'm sick?
Some people think having a disability means you are sick. This is not true. But you may need to take more care in your daily routines to stay healthy. Read more on Why should I try and be healthy when everyone treats me like I'm sick?

Question2 How do I prove that I am a good daughter-in-law in spite of my disability?
Who is a 'good daughter-in-law'? The one who fulfils everyone's expectations? Who caters to everyone's needs? Read more on How do I prove that I am a good daughter-in-law in spite of my disability?

Question3 I work at an institution for mentally-ill women. When women start touching each other in sexual ways, the staff increases their medication. Is this ok?
No. In fact, forced medication (especially the use of tranquilizers) is included in the list of practices considered forms of violence. Read more on I work at an institution for mentally-ill women. When women start touching each other in sexual ways, the staff increases their medication. Is this ok?