Sexuality and Disability

My Story

Desire for Solitude

'I remember clearly when I actually began negotiating the London streets on my own. I would go out frequently, but was always accompanied by my parents or Maya."Can I come and pick you up mum?" I asked one morning. I had just woken up and was still snuggled into my cosy IKEA duvet cover. She was going to the Institute of Education's library to read. It was a beautiful sunny day in London. "Okay, why don't you come with Maya?" said mother as she took her time in picking out her clothes…."No, I would rather come on my own,"I pleaded. I went on nagging her about how I desired solitude at times.

From the News: Deaf woman gang raped

BAHRAICH: A girl and a deaf woman were gang raped under Dehat Kotwali and Boundi police station respectively on Tuesday. The police have registered the case in all three incidents but the accused have not been arrested so far. The rape victims have been sent to the district hospital for medical examination. Reportedly a deaf woman Durga (30), a resident of Charigah village under Boundi police station went to the field where Lallan a native of the same village raped her. She narrated the incident to her family members and the next day they took Durga to the police station.

Questions

Question1 I know my family loves me, but they always make me feel like I can't achieve anything on my own.
You aren't alone! The overprotection that families often exercise over a woman with a disability can have damaging consequences for her self-esteem. Read more on I know my family loves me, but they always make me feel like I can't achieve anything on my own.

Question2 My daughter is in a wheelchair. I am worried that we'll never find a husband for her.
This is what psychologist Jyotti Savla has to say on this: 'Yes, it may be difficult to find a loving partner for your daughter, and you are worried about it. Read more on My daughter is in a wheelchair. I am worried that we'll never find a husband for her.

Question3 Can I have sex during pregnancy?
That depends on you. Some women do not want much sex when they are pregnant. Others want sex more than usual. Read more on Can I have sex during pregnancy?