Sexuality and Disability

My Story

Not a China Glass

Barry was a tetra [quadriplegic]. He had married the nurse who had taken care of him… He told us that there is more to a sexual relationship than just an orgasm. A loving relationship between partners, even if one of them is paralysed, also naturally consists of foreplay, touching, stroking, kissing and hugging. He told us that when you are paralysed, at first it seems unlikely that you will be able to have any sexual relationship with anyone. This thought is a distressing and worrying one. However, you may have to modify or change some of the sexual activities, and you can still have a meaningful sex life and continue to be sexually acti...

Learning About Napkins

'In standard four [in my school in Thailand] we were given special education, where they put girls and guys separately. They told us about menstrual cycles, sexual relations, intercourse, etc. They really taught us everything in detail. Perhaps because it was a blind school, they even taught us how to put a sanitary napkin and made sure that we could do it precisely. But some blind girls don't even know what a sanitary napkin is. Because they're visually impaired, no one must have shown it to them. Other kids watch it on TV or in ads, but that's not possible for us.

Questions

Question1 Why should I try and be healthy when everyone treats me like I'm sick?
Some people think having a disability means you are sick. This is not true. But you may need to take more care in your daily routines to stay healthy. Read more on Why should I try and be healthy when everyone treats me like I'm sick?

Question2 Isn't good sex just supposed to 'happen'? I feel like talking about it may kill the mood.
Many of us have grown up believing that sex is something that is best not talked about. External Website that opens in new window This can make sharing intimate details about desires, sexual thoughts and feelings difficult. Read more on Isn't good sex just supposed to 'happen'?

Question3 Is my child more prone to abuse than non-disabled children?
Child sexual abuse has been called India's worst-kept secret.A national survey in 2007 across 13 states showed that more than half Read more on Is my child more prone to abuse than non-disabled children?