Sexuality and Disability

My Story

Mother In A Wheelchair

'I've been in a wheelchair since I had a car accident when I was 16. I'd always wanted to be a mother and a year after I got married, I had my first son. When the children were young I got by through designing and modifying things to suit my needs. When they were babies I had them on a sheepskin with two wooden handles so I could pick them up. When they started crawling they'd wear a little harness or I'd dress them in overalls. I had a change table and bassinette modified to suit my chair, and used a bath that supported the babies well. The hardest part when the children were young, was the isolation. We were living in a semi-rural area and I was very much confined to the house while my husband worked.

The Decision

'The guy [blind] had proposed me and I had said yes. He was not in the same city as I was. So my relationship went on the phone for good long three years.My parents had objected because the age gap between the two of us was too much. It was around 14 years. But still my mum had met the family to see how they were and all. Initially his parents were also not agreeing for a blind girl.Something happened which created anger and led to rejection. Anger and rejection were both from my side. He even tried to patch up for the next one and a half years. But it didn't happen. After I rejected him, his family agreed. He even had spoken to someone for my job and all. He started using all those ways to get me back.

Questions

Question1 Why do I bleed every month?
When girls are between 10 and 15 years old, they start bleeding from the vagina every month for around 4-7 days every month. Read more on Why do I bleed every month?

Question2 My daughter is in a wheelchair. I am worried that we'll never find a husband for her.
This is what psychologist Jyotti Savla has to say on this: 'Yes, it may be difficult to find a loving partner for your daughter, and you are worried about it. Read more on My daughter is in a wheelchair. I am worried that we'll never find a husband for her.

Question3 Will my disability make me an easy victim of sexual assault?
Many women experience sexual assault and rape. They face these at the hands of partners, families, people they interact with, Read more on Will my disability make me an easy victim of sexual assault?