Sexuality and Disability

My Story

Paraplegic Pregnancy

'Early last week I had the wonderful experience of seeing the baby move-not actually feeling it move yet-but if I would lie down and watch, I could see my belly move. Watching it jump slightly from a kick or punch was the most wonderful experience to witness. It was the first time I actually knew for certain that a baby was growing inside my ever-expanding belly... I had so much fun watching the jumps and bumps of my belly that I began talking to the baby while I could see it thrashing around...Transfers are definitely more difficult with an extra 15+ pounds…Sitting up in bed has proven to be a new sport for me as well. Between my growing belly and my violent spasms, some mornings it takes me several tries to successfully sit up.

Living Together

My partner and I are both diagnosed autistics. We are a couple of two people who are supposedly incapable of having relationships.We don't do things the "normal" way. We met online, at a certain autism website. We had some difficulties in knowing how to touch each other at first, though we now do it all the time. Our idea of a great date often involves going to bookstores. We have silly repeated phrases, usually involving our cat, that we repeat to each other many times a day.And yes, there are difficulties. We are both disabled and trying to live semi-independently together. Sometimes this is very, very hard.

Questions

Question1 I'm never going to look like the women in advertisements and posters, and this makes me feel really bad about the way my body is.
Join the club. The ads you see and hear are designed to sell products, and they've figured the best way to do this is by lowering women's self-esteem (link Self Esteem). Read more on I'm never going to look like the women in advertisements and posters, and this makes me feel really bad about the way my body is.

Question2 I don't like going out. What do I do?
To begin with, ask yourself this question, 'Why do you not like going out?' Try to pinpoint the issues that you face. Read more on I don't like going out. What do I do?

Question3 I am visually impaired. While helping me cross the road, the person sometimes brushes against me. I feel uncomfortable. What should I do?
In public transport like buses and trains, women often experience men rubbing against them or feeling them up. Read more on I am visually impaired. While helping me cross the road, the person sometimes brushes against me. I feel uncomfortable. What should I do?